I need to stay in touch better. It’s easy to get disconnected when our lives are so busy and hectic. Things like remembering birthdays, scheduling one on one time, and even sending snail mail help foster connection and make people feel appreciated. I do call my mom every day on my way to work, and I have on going chats in messenger and discord with my friend group. This all definitely helps us feel closer.

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     I consider myself incredibly fortunate to have so many cheerleaders - people who have my back no matter what: my mom, my husband, amazing friends. I’m very proud of the support group that I have cultivated and hope that they in turn see me as their biggest cheerleaders. 
     I have to mention here, if you ever find yourself at a loss for answering this question or  feel like you lack people in your corner, know that you absolutely deserve to have them. We all need people who lift us up instead of tearing us down. The world can be a shitty enough place as is. Look for the people who will stand in the bleachers and scream for you at the top of their lungs no matter how silly they look (that’s your tribe).

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The most influential relationships in my life right now are my husband, my WGB group, and my online DND group.
     My husband is a great partner and I’m fortunate that we are both invested in maintaining open communication and healthy boundaries. We talk about pretty much everything, enjoy traveling together, and hanging out, but we also feel comfortable doing our own thing. I can go on vacation to Oregon for a week with my friends, and while we miss each other by the end, he has no qualms with my going and enjoys a little healthy time apart. I feel like our relationship is very healthy as we are open with each other. When we argue or fight, it is short lived because we circle back around with clearer heads and discuss our feelings and needs. 
     My WGB group is comprised of four other women I graduated high school with over twenty years ago. We have been through just about everything you can imagine together and I can’t imagine life without them. We get together at least twice a year and have a running messenger chat where we keep in touch almost daily. I feel like I can share pretty much anything with them and feel infinitely supported. These women aren’t really just friends anymore, they’re family and I’ll always be grateful for their love.
     My online DND group is comprised of people from California, Canada, and a few people who live just across town. They remind me all the time of a meme I once saw about how it’s mind boggling to realize that you have not yet met all the people you will love in your lifetime.  We’ve been meeting for about two years now and my life is richer for knowing all of them, even the ones I’ve never met in person (which will someday be remedied by my love of travel). They offer me perspective and teach me about setting healthy boundaries, respecting one another, and sharing feelings - an unspoken need is a need that can’t be met.

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